Become your own ideal

What man would you like to be? Are you far away from becoming him? It’s clear that if you act as your ideal, then you are him. It’s as simple as it looks. In this article I present personal development by using your own created ideal.

Firstly – image of your ideal
If you want to use this method, you must describe the perfect you. Take a sheet of paper and write down who you want to be.

Describe, how your ideal takes decisions, how he acts under pressure, what his character is. Define the ideal so particularly that you could determine how he would act in one or other situation.

Act as your ideal
Don’t know what decision to make? It’s not a problem at all, because you know what your ideal would do. But maybe even he can not help you to decide, then at least search for solution as he would do: no crying or moaning, but deciding by counting all pluses and minuses and understanding that you can not influence all of the external factors, for example, the rain.

First example
I would like to illustrate this with a very simple example. Imagine, that you are in your kitchen and have just dropped a greasy morsel of meat on the floor. Now you are able to do the following things:
a) to pretend that it hasn’t happened and leave the meat on the floor;
b) to take and bin the meat, but leave the dirt on the floor;
c) to kick the meat under the fridge, and clean the floor with your slipper;
d) to bin the meat and do proper cleaning of the floor.
My ideal would choose d, what about yours?

It’s a very simple situation, but perfectly shows how having the ideal allows to take decisions easily. As I have written, every fortune starts with a simple and small step.

Second example
Now let’s visualize something more complicated. It’s a deep night, you’re going home and suddenly you see that three men are trying to take a girl away against her will. They are about 50 meters away and don’t see you. You can choose one of the following:
a) to pretend, that you don’t see anything suspicious (anyway it’s not my business);
b) to call the police and leave;
c) to attack one against three – I’m relative of Chuck Norris, so I’ll beat them easily even if they have guns ;) ;
d) to call the police and try to make them to take note of your presence. That would create time for a girl to escape.
What your ideal would do this time? Mine would choose c, but until I haven’t required skills or gun, I would be forced to choose d. I’m quick and fast, at the worst case scenario I would win some time for the police to come.

It’s very simple to use these decision making principles in every day life. Do your ideal checks email every five minutes? Does he every free moment at work goes to facebook? Or maybe firstly accomplishes his tasks and later does important things? Does your ideal watch TV every day? Act as your ideal and become like him.

The ideal isn’t perfect
Firstly, I believe that all of you agree that the perfect human doesn’t exist. Also, we don’t need viceless people. You don’t need to be always the first, the right one, the best and so on. What is really important that you enjoy everyday life, get experience and learn from mistakes. Don’t forget to stop and smell roses, don’t run through your life as its purpose would be to finish it as fast as you can without noticing anything.

Who doesn’t lose, doesn’t win. It’s that simple. Do you think that successful people achieved their happiness with the first try? No, they are the people, who don’t stop after every failure, but continue until become winners.

Therefore, don’t imagine ideal as a perfect man. Often despite a lot of efforts we fail, but actually it’s a step forward. Every failure makes as stronger and smarter. So, don’t give up and you’ll get your fortune.

September 17, 2009 · Povilas Panavas · No Comments
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